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You might be right about legal purposes, but laws don't serve to reflect scientific reality, they provide a (certainly flawed, and thus changeable) set of rules and guidelines for a functioning society. As for medical purposes -- and while I'm no expert -- aside from issues regarding trans folk specifically, I'd think one's gender is typically of no concern, only one's sex.

You may think it's only liberals, but sex and gender are also not considered to be the same thing in these places:
But yes, I suppose if all the scientific organizations and dictionaries are exclusively made up of liberals, then you are correct.

Also, why get bent out of shape about pronouns? We've used they/them as singular forever when referring to someone of unknown gender (if only recently accepted in formal writing), and new words get invented all the time. It's like saying "there's no such thing as 'rizz,' it's 'charisma' no matter how much anyone wants to say differently."
You're missing the point:
Which is, a man cannot become a woman. Period. They can act, feel and believe they're a woman, but society has no obligation to indulge them in this delusion.

As for pronouns, until a few years ago, I never, in all my years, ever heard of a singular person referred to a "they/them".
And again, for a singular person to want others to refer to them as "they/them" is simply grammatically incorrect.
You're probably too young to remember the SNL skit about Pat?
 
You're missing the point:
Which is, a man cannot become a woman. Period. They can act, feel and believe they're a woman, but society has no obligation to indulge them in this delusion.
I understand your point, I simply disagree, as do the scientific and medical communities. One's gender is independent of their sex, and, subject the limitations of medical technology (can't change chromosomes, for instance), one can also change their sex to match their gender identity, if they so choose.
As for pronouns, until a few years ago, I never, in all my years, ever heard of a singular person referred to a "they/them".
I find this highly unbelievable, because it's been happening for hundreds of years.
And again, for a singular person to want others to refer to them as "they/them" is simply grammatically incorrect.
No, it isn't.
 
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Tell me where I'm wrong?

The only way a man becomes a woman is in their own mind (and maybe they can make some physical modifications.)

Wanting, feeling and believing you're the opposite sex does not make it so.
What she didn't also understand is all those people before 2007 could come out NOW since it is praised, but they don't...because it wasn't a social contagion. Mostly social contagion with most wanting to reverse it or wish they never tranny acted. Too much time wasted with her already
 
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I understand your point, I simply disagree, as do the scientific and medical communities. One's gender is independent of their sex, and, subject the limitations of medical technology (can't change chromosomes, for instance), one can also change their sex to match their gender identity, if they so choose.

I find this highly unbelievable, because it's been happening for hundreds of years.

No, it isn't.
a person can choose whatever gender they want, including unicorn. But if they tell me they're a unicorn, I'm going to say "No, you're not". This despite them believing with all of their being, that they're a unicorn.
Same goes with a man wanting to be a woman. Despite what they feel and believe, they are not. Nor do i have to comply with their fantasy. Nor will I stand by and watch them walk into the ladies room if my daughters are in there.

As for being grammatically correct or not. How's this:

You: "Do you know Jill?
Me: "Who's Jill? Is she new?"
You: "Jill isn't she, she's they"
Me: "What?"
 
a person can choose whatever gender they want
I agree, although I'd argue it's less about choice and more about a deep understanding of one's personal identity. This isn't done willy-nilly. Regardless, I'm glad we've come to an understanding.
, including unicorn. But if they tell me they're a unicorn, I'm going to say "No, you're not". This despite them believing with all of their being, that they're a unicorn.
Unicorn is not a gender, so this is irrelevant, but your argument seems to be "you can identify however you want, but I'm still allowed to be a dick about it." Which, I guess, you're right. You're allowed to be as much of a dick as you want to be. But, that's you on an individual level. The trans rights issue is about how people are treated by the institutions of a society. Individuals are allowed to be racist -- they're ALSO being dicks if they are -- but they're not allowed to, for instance, deny someone a job because of that person's race.
Same goes with a man wanting to be a woman. Despite what they feel and believe, they are not. Nor do i have to comply with their fantasy. Nor will I stand by and watch them walk into the ladies room if my daughters are in there.
In these four sentences, you've used "they" or "their" as a singular 4 times. So I guess you don't have a problem with it after all. Also, I don't believe you'd ever do anything to stop a trans person going into the restroom that you've decided is the wrong one for them, even if you knew some random person about to walk in there was trans. What are you going to do, set up a genital checking station outside the restroom until your daughters come back out? Trans people have been using the restroom they want forever, long before the Republicans started fear-mongering that they were SA-ing people all the time in there, have you EVER tried to stop someone? But also, just let people pee in peace for crying out loud.

If you're worried about someone PRETENDING to be trans so they can go in the women's restroom, then you really don't have a problem with trans people, you have a problem with cis men. Banning trans people from the restroom where they feel the most comfortable will not solve this problem.
As for being grammatically correct or not. How's this:

You: "Do you know Jill?
Me: "Who's Jill? Is she new?"
You: "Jill isn't she, she's they"
Me: "What?"
How's this: "Hey, someone left their coat on the coat rack."

Or would you prefer: "Hey, someone left his or her coat on the coat rack." I'm sure you use this sentence construction on the regular, right?

But, also, if you wanted to know what the grammar rules are, you could check the various style guides regarding their guidelines for the use of the singular "they," -- or even look into the history of the use of singular "they" -- rather than just saying it's grammatically incorrect while having no basis for it.
 
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a person can choose whatever gender they want, including unicorn. But if they tell me they're a unicorn, I'm going to say "No, you're not". This despite them believing with all of their being, that they're a unicorn.
Same goes with a man wanting to be a woman. Despite what they feel and believe, they are not. Nor do i have to comply with their fantasy. Nor will I stand by and watch them walk into the ladies room if my daughters are in there.

As for being grammatically correct or not. How's this:

You: "Do you know Jill?
Me: "Who's Jill? Is she new?"
You: "Jill isn't she, she's they"
Me: "What?"
what she doesn't know is my fifth wife wanted to be a tranny and also wanted me to be a tranny because she said she heard it was better to give than receive! My last year at Purdue two mechanical, one chemical and one psychology major shared an apartment and of course the psychology major was the odd one out. He went to Mexifornia and couldn't get a job since he knew nothing of value. Went back to school as a CS major
 
what she doesn't know is my fifth wife wanted to be a tranny and also wanted me to be a tranny because she said she heard it was better to give than receive! My last year at Purdue two mechanical, one chemical and one psychology major shared an apartment and of course the psychology major was the odd one out. He went to Mexifornia and couldn't get a job since he knew nothing of value. Went back to school as a CS major
Can you stop using slurs? I mean, I know it makes you feel superior and all, but seriously, you wouldn't come on here and use the n-word in post after post, right?
 
Can you stop using slurs? I mean, I know it makes you feel superior and all, but seriously, you wouldn't come on here and use the n-word in post after post, right?
This forum does absolutely NOTHING to alter what I think about myself. It does however make me question if there are more gullible in the population than I used to believe...even if I discount mail ballot fraud.
 
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This forum does absolutely NOTHING to alter what I think about myself. It does however make me question if there are more gullible in the population than I used to believe...
"This forum doesn't make me feel superior, but it does show me that there are more people who are inferior to me than I thought there were."
even if I discount mail ballot fraud.
Helluva non sequitur.
 
I agree, although I'd argue it's less about choice and more about a deep understanding of one's personal identity. This isn't done willy-nilly. Regardless, I'm glad we've come to an understanding.

Unicorn is not a gender, so this is irrelevant, but your argument seems to be "you can identify however you want, but I'm still allowed to be a dick about it." Which, I guess, you're right. You're allowed to be as much of a dick as you want to be. But, that's you on an individual level. The trans rights issue is about how people are treated by the institutions of a society. Individuals are allowed to be racist -- they're ALSO being dicks if they are -- but they're not allowed to, for instance, deny someone a job because of that person's race.

In these four sentences, you've used "they" or "their" as a singular 4 times. So I guess you don't have a problem with it after all. Also, I don't believe you'd ever do anything to stop a trans person going into the restroom that you've decided is the wrong one for them, even if you knew some random person about to walk in there was trans. What are you going to do, set up a genital checking station outside the restroom until your daughters come back out? Trans people have been using the restroom they want forever, long before the Republicans started fear-mongering that they were SA-ing people all the time in there, have you EVER tried to stop someone? But also, just let people pee in peace for crying out loud.

If you're worried about someone PRETENDING to be trans so they can go in the women's restroom, then you really don't have a problem with trans people, you have a problem with cis men. Banning trans people from the restroom where they feel the most comfortable will not solve this problem.

How's this: "Hey, someone left their coat on the coat rack."

Or would you prefer: "Hey, someone left his or her coat on the coat rack." I'm sure you use this sentence construction on the regular, right?

But, also, if you wanted to know what the grammar rules are, you could check the various style guides regarding their guidelines for the use of the singular "they," -- or even look into the history of the use of singular "they" -- rather than just saying it's grammatically incorrect while having no basis for it.

I think you need a remedial grammar class...

Not indulging in someone's fantasy is me being a dick? How about that person consider my feelings? Wonder if I'm not comfortable calling a biological male a female because I feel it's dishonest? Now, if that person gets upset that I feel this way, who's being the dick then?
 
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I think you need a remedial grammar class...
So you DIDN'T look it up or acknowledge that you used singular "they" yourself four times in your previous post, cool.
Not indulging in someone's fantasy is me being a dick? How about that person consider my feelings? Wonder if I'm not comfortable calling a biological male a female because I feel it's dishonest? Now, if that person gets upset that I feel this way, who's being the dick then?
Yes, it's you being a dick. "Acknowledging your personal identity makes me feel weird, so I'm not going to do it. You are who and what I say you are."

What if I thought everyone was secretly trans, so when you identify yourself to me as a particular gender, I insist on referring to you as a different one. After all, I'm not comfortable referring to you as cisgender because I believe everyone is actually trans, so it'd make me feel dishonest. If you wanted to NOT be a dick, you could just leave people alone and refer to them in whatever manner they identify themselves to you. You know, like you already do when someone gives you a nickname or when someone hasn't presented their genitals to you for inspection, so you don't actually know what their "biological sex" is.

As an alternate scenario, it's possible to change one's eye color from brown to blue via a medical procedure. If you met someone who had done this procedure, would you insist on telling them they actually have brown eyes? I mean, you're not obligated to indulge their fantasy that they have blue eyes, right? Their genetic makeup says they have brown eyes, so that's what they have, regardless of the fact that their eyes now appear blue. (NOTE: I recognize this scenario does not pertain to people who transition only socially and not medically, I'm just interested in your perspective on it)

That said, as I already mentioned, you're totally allowed to be a dick. That's not against the law or anything. Do you think companies should be able to deny people jobs because they are trans?

And, once again, biology concerns sex, not gender. Sex and gender may be highly-correlated, but they're not 100%. You can check with actual biologists to confirm this. For that matter, while chromosomes, genitals, hormones, and whatnot are highly correlated, they're not 100% either. The breakdown of the human population by sex is bimodal, not binary. There are variations, and just because someone doesn't fit the "norm" doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. They're just different, the same way people who fall outside the "normal" range of human height are just different. The same is true of gender; it's also bimodal and there are variations within the population, and that's aside from the fact that gender norms are socially-constructed to begin with. There's nothing inherent about humanity that says we have to pee in two different rooms (or in any room at all, for that matter -- see the vast majority of human history before rooms existed), or that certain of us are supposed to have long hair, or that certain of us are supposed to wear pants vs. skirts. We decided those things as a society, so we're allowed to change them, or simply allow people not to conform (without being dicks about it), if we see fit.
 
So you DIDN'T look it up or acknowledge that you used singular "they" yourself four times in your previous post, cool.

Yes, it's you being a dick. "Acknowledging your personal identity makes me feel weird, so I'm not going to do it. You are who and what I say you are."

What if I thought everyone was secretly trans, so when you identify yourself to me as a particular gender, I insist on referring to you as a different one. After all, I'm not comfortable referring to you as cisgender because I believe everyone is actually trans, so it'd make me feel dishonest. If you wanted to NOT be a dick, you could just leave people alone and refer to them in whatever manner they identify themselves to you. You know, like you already do when someone gives you a nickname or when someone hasn't presented their genitals to you for inspection, so you don't actually know what their "biological sex" is.

As an alternate scenario, it's possible to change one's eye color from brown to blue via a medical procedure. If you met someone who had done this procedure, would you insist on telling them they actually have brown eyes? I mean, you're not obligated to indulge their fantasy that they have blue eyes, right? Their genetic makeup says they have brown eyes, so that's what they have, regardless of the fact that their eyes now appear blue. (NOTE: I recognize this scenario does not pertain to people who transition only socially and not medically, I'm just interested in your perspective on it)

That said, as I already mentioned, you're totally allowed to be a dick. That's not against the law or anything. Do you think companies should be able to deny people jobs because they are trans?

And, once again, biology concerns sex, not gender. Sex and gender may be highly-correlated, but they're not 100%. You can check with actual biologists to confirm this. For that matter, while chromosomes, genitals, hormones, and whatnot are highly correlated, they're not 100% either. The breakdown of the human population by sex is bimodal, not binary. There are variations, and just because someone doesn't fit the "norm" doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them. They're just different, the same way people who fall outside the "normal" range of human height are just different. The same is true of gender; it's also bimodal and there are variations within the population, and that's aside from the fact that gender norms are socially-constructed to begin with. There's nothing inherent about humanity that says we have to pee in two different rooms (or in any room at all, for that matter -- see the vast majority of human history before rooms existed), or that certain of us are supposed to have long hair, or that certain of us are supposed to wear pants vs. skirts. We decided those things as a society, so we're allowed to change them, or simply allow people not to conform (without being dicks about it), if we see fit.
Are you trans?

Your argument that sex is bimodal, while true, is talking about such a minutely small number of the population it doesn't even register statistically. Therefore, not worth discussing.

And again, there you go with saying I'm a dick because I don't want to believe something someone tells me that I know is not true.
Why is it so hard to understand that a man can think, act, dress and believe he's a woman, does not make him a woman. No matter how hard he wishes it were true.

Can a white person become black? (and don't say "race and gender aren't the same thing")

As to your comment on societal norms. Norms are what govern behavior. It's what distinguishes between right and wrong in society.
These hamas supporters and protesters on some of the college campuses are a good example of what happens when people decide that the laws of society don't apply to them. It's a very liberal mindset which is clearly problematic.
 
Are you trans?
Are you?
Your argument that sex is bimodal, while true, is talking about such a minutely small number of the population it doesn't even register statistically. Therefore, not worth discussing.
So what's the minimum percentage of the population that a group must be for their issues to be considered by society at large?
And again, there you go with saying I'm a dick because I don't want to believe something someone tells me that I know is not true.
It's not about what you "want to believe," it's about the manner in which you are saying you would treat other people that would make you a dick. It's about what you do, not what you think. Now, if you're just talking a big game and would actually chicken out from, say, stopping someone you think is trans from going into the "wrong" restroom or purposefully calling someone the wrong gender, or wrong name, or whatever, then you're not ACTUALLY a dick, you're just making yourself look tough in this forum by saying you WANT to be a dick. You never did tell me if you would tell someone who changed their eyes from brown to blue that they REALLY have brown eyes, despite what they tell you.
Why is it so hard to understand that a man can think, act, dress and believe he's a woman, does not make him a woman. No matter how hard he wishes it were true.
It's not hard to understand, it's just wrong, because the roles of "man" and "women" as they relate to gender are socially-constructed. They are not biologically determined nor inherent, as evidenced by the fact that other societies have existed (and still exist) that have different concepts of gender.
Can a white person become black? (and don't say "race and gender aren't the same thing")
Why can't I say "race and gender aren't the same thing?" Because race and gender AREN'T the same thing, except inasmuch as race (or at least differences in skin tone) is also representative of variation within the species.
As to your comment on societal norms. Norms are what govern behavior. It's what distinguishes between right and wrong in society.
These hamas supporters and protesters on some of the college campuses are a good example of what happens when people decide that the laws of society don't apply to them. It's a very liberal mindset which is clearly problematic.
I don't know what Gaza protests have to do with anything in this discussion. But, do you agree that societal norms and views of right vs. wrong change (and have always changed) over time?
 
Ha ha. No, definitely not.
So what's the minimum percentage of the population that a group must be for their issues to be considered by society at large?
Greater than 0.018% (NIH study statistic)
It's not about what you "want to believe," it's about the manner in which you are saying you would treat other people that would make you a dick. It's about what you do, not what you think. Now, if you're just talking a big game and would actually chicken out from, say, stopping someone you think is trans from going into the "wrong" restroom or purposefully calling someone the wrong gender, or wrong name, or whatever, then you're not ACTUALLY a dick, you're just making yourself look tough in this forum by saying you WANT to be a dick. You never did tell me if you would tell someone who changed their eyes from brown to blue that they REALLY have brown eyes, despite what they tell you.
I don't care if someone changes their eye color. Whether they have brown or blues eyes doesn't matter.
A biological man pretending to be a woman and using the ladies facilities does matter to me.
It's not hard to understand, it's just wrong, because the roles of "man" and "women" as they relate to gender are socially-constructed. They are not biologically determined nor inherent, as evidenced by the fact that other societies have existed (and still exist) that have different concepts of gender.
Wrong. In a functioning society, there are gender roles. Sure, you can pull out some random society in a third world country as an example of blurred gender roles, but 3rd world countries are that way for a reason.
Why can't I say "race and gender aren't the same thing?" Because race and gender AREN'T the same thing, except inasmuch as race (or at least differences in skin tone) is also representative of variation within the species.
How is a white person claiming to feel and believe they're actually black any different than a man claiming to feel and believe that they're a woman? It's exactly the same thing.
Again, for the 10th time. I don't care what you claim and believe yourself to be. I don't have to agree with it nor do I have to confirm what I know to be incorrect.
I don't know what Gaza protests have to do with anything in this discussion. But, do you agree that societal norms and views of right vs. wrong change (and have always changed) over time?
The point was that these people that are pro-hamas and protesting Israel weren't raised by parents that believe in societal rules.
I'm assuming your a liberal democrat, so I was just interested in your opinion on this current protester situation. I have my guesses.
 
Ha ha. No, definitely not.

Greater than 0.018% (NIH study statistic)
Ok, cool, so you've determined a number based specifically on the number of intersex people and you have now taken the position that, based on that number, society should not concern itself with the issues intersex people face. But, based on this number, you have also taken the position that we should consider transgender people, who make up (conservatively) 0.5%, and perhaps as high as 1.6% (Pew Research study). Progress, I suppose.
I don't care if someone changes their eye color. Whether they have brown or blues eyes doesn't matter.
A biological man pretending to be a woman and using the ladies facilities does matter to me.
I didn't ask if you cared, I asked if you would deny to that person that their eyes are now blue.
Wrong. In a functioning society, there are gender roles. Sure, you can pull out some random society in a third world country as an example of blurred gender roles, but 3rd world countries are that way for a reason.
So you think having a different concept of gender is the cause of "third-world"-ness? Let's see you make that case.
How is a white person claiming to feel and believe they're actually black any different than a man claiming to feel and believe that they're a woman? It's exactly the same thing.
We don't have prescribed societal roles for people from different races.
Again, for the 10th time. I don't care what you claim and believe yourself to be. I don't have to agree with it nor do I have to confirm what I know to be incorrect.
I've not pushed back on your personal belief. I've asked what you think SOCIETY should do with the question of, for instance, whether someone should be allowed to deny a job to a transgender person on the basis of them being transgender. But it is interesting that you claim to "know" what's going on inside another person's head with regards to their own personal identity. I don't know how you could possibly ever know that.
The point was that these people that are pro-hamas and protesting Israel weren't raised by parents that believe in societal rules.
I'm assuming your a liberal democrat, so I was just interested in your opinion on this current protester situation. I have my guesses.
Guess away. It's not worth addressing here because that's not what we're talking about.
 
Ok, cool, so you've determined a number based specifically on the number of intersex people and you have now taken the position that, based on that number, society should not concern itself with the issues intersex people face. But, based on this number, you have also taken the position that we should consider transgender people, who make up (conservatively) 0.5%, and perhaps as high as 1.6% (Pew Research study). Progress, I suppose.

Unfortunately, when something is so statisically insignificant, it's not worth time and resources of addressing. The numbers just aren't there. And while trans people are a very small statistic, they've disproportionately garnered a larger share of attention by doing things like demanding men be able to play women's sports or use women's locker rooms.
I didn't ask if you cared, I asked if you would deny to that person that their eyes are now blue.

So you think having a different concept of gender is the cause of "third-world"-ness? Let's see you make that case.

We don't have prescribed societal roles for people from different races.

I've not pushed back on your personal belief. I've asked what you think SOCIETY should do with the question of, for instance, whether someone should be allowed to deny a job to a transgender person on the basis of them being transgender. But it is interesting that you claim to "know" what's going on inside another person's head with regards to their own personal identity. I don't know how you could possibly ever know that.

Guess away. It's not worth addressing here because that's not what we're talking about.
I didn't say gender was a third world phenomenon. I said that there may be societies where gender is viewed very differently than they are in most first world countries. But, that doesn't make them right. Just like they're probably not right on a lot of things, which is why they stay as third world.

There are no rules/laws about someone not getting a job because they're trans or black or gay or whatever. But, as someone who hires people, I can say that a person's stance on certain societal or political issues will have an impact on my hiring decisions.
 
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Unfortunately, when something is so statisically insignificant, it's not worth time and resources of addressing. The numbers just aren't there. And while trans people are a very small statistic, they've disproportionately garnered a larger share of attention by doing things like demanding men be able to play women's sports or use women's locker rooms.
So should new buildings be required to be built with wheelchair access?
I didn't say gender was a third world phenomenon. I said that there may be societies where gender is viewed very differently than they are in most first world countries. But, that doesn't make them right. Just like they're probably not right on a lot of things, which is why they stay as third world.
First-world countries having a particular view doesn't make them right, either, though, right? Like, economic success and, for instance, immorality are not mutually-exclusive. Hypothetically, can third-world countries be right about something that first-world countries are wrong about, despite the two countries' respective economic status?
There are no rules/laws about someone not getting a job because they're trans or black or gay or whatever. But, as someone who hires people, I can say that a person's stance on certain societal or political issues will have an impact on my hiring decisions.
Wait, you hire people for a living but you're unaware that there are laws against employment discrimination? Seems like a dereliction of duty, to me.

I presume you subscribe to the view that you should just hire the best-qualified person for the job, regardless of other factors, right? But here you are saying you'd reject someone because they have different political positions than you. I can think of only a few jobs where one's political views could legitimately be considered a qualification. Seems inconsistent. It seems to answer my core question, that you think it's ok to deny people jobs based on their gender identity. I disagree, and I think if you thought it through, you would, too. A hypothetical: a trans personnel manager refuses to hire cisgender employees. You'd agree that represents a problem and shouldn't be allowed, yes?
 
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