You must be in the grouping of the rarest of the rare to have known that many people personally affected in such a way.
There are roughly 36,000 gun deaths each year. 60% are suicide. The exact number of people that use a gun for defensive purposes is hard to narrow down, because of exactly what you said. They don't typically get reported. It is estimated that there are between 500,000 to 3 million defensive uses of guns per year.
I think what gets lost here is that we have plenty of laws on the books that aren't enforced or do nothing to stop gun violence. At some point we need to realize that guns aren't the issue, it's people. A gun is just a tool and has many things it can be used for. It takes a person to use it improperly and more laws are only going to impede law abiding citizens. Most shootings happen by guns attained illegally. If that's the case then what is passing more laws going to do to stop shootings? The answer is next to nothing. I'm writing a paper on that issue and
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